I'm not going to lie, jumping from single life to marriage was a hard adjustment for me. One that has taken years of learning and growing with my other half to find our comfort zone. Finding out we were having quadruplets, all of them girls, was just plain unimaginable.
Let me give a little context to that logic. Growing up, I was the oldest of ten children. If you think that was crazy, imagine 8 of them being boys. There was constantly a ball flying through the air, someone yelling at another, a fight breaking out or just plain chaos from moment to moment. Our poor sisters. Only heaven knows how they survived all of us brothers.
So when news of our Quadruplet miracles broke, I thought for sure they'd all be boys; or at least one set of twins would be. I mean with my family's DNA, the odds were in my favor, right? Wrong. Dead wrong.
Over the years I've learned God has a funny sense of humor. I've also learned he sends us what we need the most, even if we don't realize that in the moment. That's the wonderful thing about God, he knows everything. We know very little down here on this spinning globe, but we think we do. LOL.
The beginning of parenthood was definitely a learning experience and adjustment for me, again. If I thought adjusting to one woman was hard, how was I going to adjust to four more? Would I survive? Would they survive?
Fast forward, we are all here and alive, thankfully! The years have also been very kind to me, and to all of my girls. Looking back, if things would have gone according to "Tyson's plan", I'm not so sure everything would have been so peachy. Maybe? But I have a feeling God knew what I needed, what Ashley needed, and what we were capable of together. He knows. The question is do we allow his knowledge and blessings to present themselves?
People ask me all the time, "Don't you wish you would've had a boy?" I always chuckle. The answer is so simple and immediate; NO. Things are exactly how they are supposed to be. I wasn't meant to be a boy dad. That wasn't my calling. Did I always know this? Of course not; but it became evident very quickly.
As i look around day to day, i find things are much different from the man i once was. My hobbies have changed, my taste in music adjusted. How I spend my time and my efforts definitely different. As i look at all God has given me, being surrounded by five beautiful, smart, and talented women can't be a bad thing, right? I mean, who's the lucky one, me or them? I could give you the answer, but I have a feeling you already know!
-Tyson
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